Having recently been involved in a situation that was very disappointing to me. I was reminded by someone “sometimes things happen that have nothing to do with you.”
At this season of life, I have become an avid listener, so having heard what was said I have spent a significant amount of time dwelling on those words. Truthfully, this has led to more questions than answers.
Can it be true? Is it possible circumstances directly involving and affecting me can have “nothing to do with me”? Considering this possibility has given me reason to pause and reassess my attitude and the condition of my heart when facing situations and circumstances beyond my control.
I could take the high road here and say I understand and believe this is true, sometimes things involving me have “nothing to do with me”. But honestly, I find it difficult to believe and even more difficult to accept.
Why? The answer lies in the truth; we are the center of our world. I am the center of my world, and you are the center of your world. Consequently, anything that involves us is about us.
Isn’t it?
If it is true, this means we must be willing to learn and accept the challenges and disappointments we face with an understanding there could be a plan in place we may be unaware of and the results of this plan though contrary to our plan, may be, for our good.
Believing this is true can be difficult when there are times we are hurt or discouraged by whatever transpires.
In fact, this can create a genuine struggle for us, which cannot be overcome without faith. The faith needed is a kind of faith according to the writer of Hebrews that is, “being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we cannot see”.
The difficulty in leaving this up to faith, if you are anything like me, is I tend to think too much, and this can bring doubt where hope should abide and can blur my vision making it difficult to be certain of what I do not see.
Although, I am not convinced the situation I was involved in was not about me. I am convinced I can believe in and hope for something more, which will give me the ability to understand and accept whatever comes my way.
I will close by saying, although the me focus existing in our life’s equation will never go away, we can find peace in knowing the beauty of accepting this is true allows us the ability to hear it has “nothing to do with me” even when we are sure it does!
Psalm 27:14, “Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.
